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44 Responses to “Me”

  1. Girl..you are the hotness!…

    Feminista said this on March 22, 2007 at 6:40 pm

  2. Mashallah sis love the blog and you look so beautiful in your hijab, mashallah and yeah i love the hair wow

    Mercy said this on March 23, 2007 at 12:17 am

  3. By the way sis where did you get that Abayah-hijab its amazing?

    Mercy said this on March 23, 2007 at 12:18 am

  4. my surname’s like ur name! cool like u! congratulations margari!

    paolo margari said this on April 20, 2007 at 3:55 pm

  5. I love the Amazigh outfit! the embroidery is gorgeous.

    gazelle du sahara said this on July 8, 2007 at 3:06 am

  6. i am married to a black jamaican sister mashallah and black is most definatly beautiful

    Ibrahim Ahmed said this on August 9, 2007 at 11:10 am

  7. What a beautiful hijab you have.. :)

    nono said this on September 2, 2007 at 3:26 am

  8. Why did you stop wearing the hijab? I know you love the way your body looks in uncovered clothes, we all (muslim girls) do, and you are pretty, (ive seen prettier covered muslimahs) but have you ever thought about whats more important, alligience/ obidience to Allah (swt) or one’s own desires? Thats what a muslim is all about sis, no one said its easy but it definately not something to be taken lightly.

    SisAddy said this on October 19, 2007 at 4:41 am

  9. mashallah nicely put sister addy, we have to pledge allegience to allah before the dunya

    Ibrahim Ahmed said this on October 19, 2007 at 9:45 am

  10. SisAddy,
    Wow, your approach is abrasive and kind of catty. You’d think that I posted some nude pics on this site. That’s definitely not how a loving sister would encourages another Muslimah to cover. I really love how Muslims focus on one single thing when it comes to Muslim women–hijab. That is the sole standard that they judge us by. If I wore it, you would assume I was a perfectly Allah fearing Muslimah. I know plenty of hijabis who are just as attached to the dunya (if not more) than the sisters that don’t. Some where it because they are brow beaten by Muslimah like yourself. But for the most part, women donned hijab in and of their own accord, out of gentle encouragement, not admonishment. That stereotype of a judgmental hijabi was one thing I really hated and worked hard against.

    Ibrahim Ahmed, before chiming in, why don’t you address some of your shortcomings and struggles before talking about other people’s challenges with the dunya? That way you don’t have to seem so self righteous, like you got taqwah and ihsan on lock.

    Now, we can redirect this debate over here: On Picures Hijab and Forbidding Evil</a

    Margari Aziza Hill said this on October 19, 2007 at 11:13 am

  11. my dear sister i am only human and trying to be a practising muslim, im just trying to acheive what every other muslim should be trying to do…..acheive jannah, my dear sister in al islam we all have shortcomings, but on some things i do not compromise and that is the sunnah of our rasoolullah pbuh and the laws of the quraan, as a human your taqwaa will be stronger from time to time. is it an offence to agree with addy? 1 thing i can say is that i do not have love for the dunya allhamdulillah , i use to trust me the cars, women, clothes etc but now i treat this dunya as if i am a traveller (refering to the hadith of the prophet pbuh) just trying to support my wife and be better muslims. of course i/we struggle but it is all a test from allah, i dont see it as a shortcoming but an oppurtunity to turn back to allah and repent. as the companions use to feel like allah didnot love them as he never put them through any tests! allhamdulillah, i am far from perfect my dear sister in al islam, if anything i am the dirt at the bottom of your shoe or even worse, i am just grateful that i have what i have, a beautiful and pious wife and rules and regualtions to live by which i will not compromise as inshallah that will be our key to jannah inshallah.

    ibrahim (ahmed) al hindi said this on October 23, 2007 at 9:57 am

  12. Assalamualaikum wa rahmatulahi wa barakatu,
    taking note of ur response to the bro and sis above
    sincere advice that goes to me 1st then you
    Hijab is on the internet as well
    blog msn and social networks and the like
    ur hair is ur awra and hence it should not be expoede to non mahrams Allah knows what some ppl do with random pics

    I love your abaya but it’s very eyecatching and can bring a lot of attention to men ,that needs to be avoided to me it’s more of an adotnment and that’s breaking the rules of islamic outwear for women I live in kuwait as well and am looking for sisters to chat with don’t worry am not a guy or a lesbian or nothing just need some company is all.
    and no am not claimming to be some super muslimah, no it all whatever else is there to be said

    oJ said this on October 26, 2007 at 10:44 pm

  13. Walaikum salaam OJ,
    I understand, hijab is the norm in Kuwait. It is so much of the norm, it kind of looses its religious value.

    Maybe you don’t understand the subtleties of the English language. So you may not have picked up the contentions I have with some of the commentors. The tone of the people who admonish me for not wearing hijab is something that really bothers me. For example, saying that it is evil or saying that I am more loyal to the dunya than to Allah. The brother who commented above says he has NO love for the dunya. Wow, he has accomplished a lot. He has given up all worldly attachments, except commenting on women’s blogs. Why should he care what a weak Muslim does? I know there are plenty dunyah loving,unwilling to sacrifice any of their material goods, stingy, mean spirited, praise loving, egotistical, people who follow the rules of Islamic dress. We all struggle with our nafs. Unlike many of the covering Muslims who wear hijab because of social pressure, I am as I appear and appear as I am.

    I am waiting till my heart opens up. It is not so much about the struggles of wearing hijab, but they are factors. OJ, I’m sure you have a network of support to wear hijab. Some of us have had to take care of ourselves, pay our own rent, our own way. Some of us cannot just up and get married, thinking that the brother will take care of us. I have to be able to have a job interview in America and wear hijab. I have to be willing to deal with discrimination. I have to be willing to answer all the questions about Islam, be a representative, a dai’ya’ all day every day, to deal with stares, the verbal abuse, and attacks. I’ll have to deal with other Muslims assuming I’m a good good because I cover. I’ll have to deal with other people using me as an example of how to be, even if they don’t know my struggle.

    By the way, if we follow the sunnah, shouldn’t we follow the ways of RasulAllah (s.a.w.) in admonishing and giving naseehah. There are convincing ways of encouraging people to righteousness, especially struggling Muslims. And maybe it has something to do with the medium of writing in the blog world, but the tone of many people comes off as rather harsh and judging.

    Margari Aziza Hill said this on October 27, 2007 at 9:13 am

  14. my dear sister in al islam, only allh knows if i have love for the dunya or not, but i beleive i am at a complete different state to what i use to be like when i was in a state of ignorance, and only allah knows best, inshallah. sister there is also no need for sarcasm, im not on any womens blogs, your a sister in al islam and i was interested in what you are writing. i also think that you took what i said the wrong way, i was just literally saying that we should only pledge allegeince to allah and not the dunya, i did not mean to output it in a harsh manner. my tone on this blog or any other blog is not to judge or admonish any one, inshallah. alhamdulillah all praise is always due to allah first and foremost and verily allah understands my intentions, being sincere or otherwise.

    allhamdulillah if i come across rude or selfish in any manner i ask allah to forgive me and remove this from my heart. i still beleive there is no compromising the sunnah and i live in the uk its as bad a struggle as it is in the usa. may alah make our intentions sincere and our dawah stronger by the day and increase the love of the sunnah in our hearts. ameen.

    ibrahim al hindi said this on October 27, 2007 at 12:10 pm

  15. To all respondants. I apologize if my responses seemed like personal attacks.

    My dear brother Ibrahim,
    I think I jumped on you even though all you were doing was chiming into Addy’s clever slogan (and I don’t mean slogan in a perjorative way because I think it is a clever phrase). I am sure I took what you were saying the wrong way. You develop defensive mechanisms after getting the issue beaten over your head by your co-religionists regularly. I have a history, and hijab is a huge part of it. Unfortunately, I was pretty much ostracized because of a choice I made when my will had been sapped. It was during that time of vulnerability that I needed even more support and acceptance. But instead, I had people backbite me and even call me a kafir. It took me years before I went to the masjid to see the same girls who used to be my friends who spread rumors about my faith. They didn’t know that I still did dawa, that I still worked to end misconceptions about Islam. They couldn’t know what was in my heart because all they could focus on was my hijab.

    I am glad that there are strong Muslims who don’t compromise the Sunnah. But over the years I have still found that we Muslims still pick and choose. I beleive we are nearing the time when Muslims only know and practice 10% of the faith. But, if you are earnestly giving it your all, then I am proud of you and support you 100%.

    I apologize if my last comment implied that you were on women’s sites with questionable intentions. The thrust of my meaning was that even though the blog world is a virtual reality it was within the realm of dunyah. Even though I write blogs, I don’t see them as praiseworthy activities as opposed to studying Qur’an, hadith, or Islamic sciences. But, as with anything, if we approach blogging with the right intentions we can benefit from it. But there are many shortcomings to blogging and reading blogs. It is one of the gray areas.

    It is not my goal to question anyone’s intentions. In fact, I’m suppoed to assume the best in people. This is why I actually reluctantly acknowledged (I say reluctantly because my argumentative personality is often want to give concessions for misunderstandings and misread meaning). The martry in me is so used to feeling like the world is against me and no one accepts me. I don’t think it is wrong to encourage our brothers and sisters to be better Muslims, to help them find the strength to give up actions and behaviors that takes them away from the Right Path. It is just really rare to hear it said gently and with love and hope. I got a sense of that in the last comment. It sheds much more light on your earlier comments. Thank you for your dua.

    Margari Aziza Hill said this on October 27, 2007 at 7:31 pm

  16. I agree with almost everything you’ve said earlier ,wearing hijab does not mean that your faith is stronger than the girl who does not cover ,when u are born in a Muslim country u tend to look at these things as habits ,u take your religion for granted ,u forget the meaning behind yr actions ,obviously this is a hot button issue for u ,bt u have to understand that they’re only humans ,and in our minds we associate the actions of covering then throwing the hijab with leaving or distancing themselves from the religion and that is the case(90% of the time)I’m talking about the cases that I’ve seen in my own eyes ,apparently what your old friends failed to consider the reasons that drove to do so and (I’m only guessing here)bt obviously not only did they condom your actions bt they also refused to listen to u (that’s the only scenario I could come up with that goes with them not speaking to you for yrs )and maybe I shouldn’t add this bt that’s why most of the girls I know have a difficult time forming friendships with religious girls, they r Way tOo judgmental!!!

    Iman said this on October 28, 2007 at 9:20 am

  17. no problems my dear sister in al islam, i dont like it when my sisters in al islam are taken advantage off, and when they are at ties called kafirs, allah musta’aan. women are the ambassadors of our relgieon and i wil do anything to protect there chastity and there honour, inshallah. i also see what your saying regarding the blogging world, trust me when i say its not something i usualy do! haha but its just some of the topics seemed interesting and i thought id input inshallah in a beneficial way.

    allhamdulillah may allah reward you according to your intentions, Volume 1, Book 1, Number 1:

    Narrated ‘Umar bin Al-Khattab:I heard Allah’s Apostle saying, “The reward of deeds depends upon the intentions and every person will get the reward according to what he has intended. So whoever emigrated for worldly benefits or for a woman to marry, his emigration was for what he emigrated for.”

    may allah make all steadfast in our deen and elevate our imaaan. may allah make us of the salaf us salih and love the sunnah, ameeen.
    jazakallah kahir

    ibrahim (ahmed) al hindi said this on October 29, 2007 at 2:36 pm

  18. Salaam sister,
    interesting blog, some things you say I might not agree with but you express yourself eloquently mashallah. I am dissappointed but not very surprised at the comments here. I wear hijab and abaya and realise that it is very easy to judge others and very difficult to understand them. People think I am a better muslimah because of the way I cover, at the end of the day I know what my faults are and how strong my nafs is and have met sisters a hundred times better than myself who dont wear hijab. Often men comment on hijab without knowing what the experience of weearing it is for a women (esp in the West). I wore mine gradually - scarf, looser clothes, bigger khimar, abaya, over the course of nine years and three chuildren (abaya’s hide pregnancy bumps real good - great for job interviews!!). Because this has been a gradual and what felt like a natural process my personality still comes through. I have met sisters who started out covering totally (except niqab) and then getting rid of it all including the scarf because they felt swamped by it and didnt know who they were anymore. I think you are right in saying sisters need support, love and gentle encouragement so that they can feel comfortable in being themselves, not judgement and especially not from men who cannot imagine what it is to be in our position (have any of you ever tried running for the bus in an abaya?)

    Umm Salihah said this on October 29, 2007 at 7:20 pm

  19. Mashallah, your hair is beautiful! Girls with curls have it all! And no matter what you do with your hair, I still think you’re a great blogger and a great Muslim, barikallah.

    Zeynab said this on October 29, 2007 at 10:46 pm

  20. i looooooooooooove ur blog masha allah. keep it up. and i love ur up frontness, sadly many ,muslimahs are not like this. i my self am a so called “hijabi” and i find it bloody annoying,pple judge u all the time. they think just because u choose to follow one small part of islam, they assume ur religious. they expect u to be perfect. i personally believe that the hijab restricts you as u have to abide to these invisiable rules and expectations that pple have on u. for instance a hijabi smoking, no way. but a hijabi doing shisha is more accepted why cus its arab culture. really it sucks sometimes. u cant be u/

    ageless said this on November 5, 2007 at 12:13 pm

  21. As salaamu alaikoum,
    I work for the federal government and I wear my hijab to work everyday. I am a federal officer, I’m from Detroit, and there are 2 other sisters working there in their hijabs. A whole lot more not wearing hijab, and you discover they are Muslim during Ramadan. It only took me a while to start wearing it because I had to meet a sister to show me how. It’s been on ever since. I cant understand these excuses, and I wont lie I hate it when a sister gives me salaams and she isnt covered/ wearing modest anything. It’s like saying it’s too hard for me not to show my @$$. I havent had any discrimination beyond snide remarks from rednecks and a few weird looks from people who live in boxes. What I have gotten in abundance is questions, the amount of people wanting to know about Islam…the feeling is so great. If you don’t want to be identified as muslims, sisters then what is the point of being at all? BTW I am black too. Pray 5x/day, throw pissy fits at my superiors if I don’t get excused on time to make salaat. Allah gives us the courage, we just need to be able to recognize it and use it. Ma salaamaa

    mrsharrag said this on November 13, 2007 at 6:53 am

  22. mrsharraq
    What you’ve written has saddened me. How long have you been Muslims? Just a question, cause I’m trying to understand where you are coming from. That’s what sisterhood is? Someone gives you salaams and you get mad? I may be a fasiq for not wearing hijab, but I pray five times a day and my whole life is dedicated to the study of Islam.

    There are other Muslims that will look at you with even harsher judgment about where you earn your livelihood and doubt your Islam even more than my non-hijab wearing self. There are Muslims that would consider you a munafiq. Some who would even say that you are a rightful target in the war against the “Crusaders”. What do you say to them?

    I’m not trying to judge you. So I’m just raising the issue to think about. Maybe you’re not in a better state of Islam, Iman, and Ihsan than all your sisters who do not. Ultimately, Allah is the Judge

    Margari Aziza Hill said this on November 13, 2007 at 7:33 am

  23. ah, I’m starting to think that this whole hijab issue is just a tool of the shayateen! It’s a major distraction.

    lovely pics

    artemis2 said this on November 15, 2007 at 10:54 pm

  24. Asalam alaikom,
    I have just had a read of the comments and wanted to make my own. When I first reverted to Islam I didn’t wear the hijab it was so..oooooooooo hard. It took about 2 years. What I struggle with now is the reception i get when i don’t wear the abaya, and wear maybe a pair of big loose trousers and three quarter length top/ coat! (I know this must sound so ridiculous!) My sister converted to Islam about 3 years ago (2 years after me), and within about a year and a half was wearing the jilbab and niqab. Whenever I’m not dressed in the abaya or wearing a long skirt I’m ‘reminded’ ‘I should not be wearing this, i should be dressed this way, or that way, ect’. I find this reaction is fairly common with some jilbab/nikab wearing sisters. You almost feel unaccepted if you do not conform.
    I have met so many different Muslimas and whilst i admire the zeal that sisters have with following the Sunnah sometimes I feel that there is too much finger jabbing. We should not be harsh with each other Rasullallah was patient and showed kindness to others, we are suppossed to be emulating him. There is a hadith about a woman who prayed 5 times a day and performed all her sunnahs, prayed tahajud ect but she was mean to her neighbours. Then there was another who just did her 5 salah, she was kind and had a soft heart. Allah granted her Jannah and the other Jahanam.
    Allah will judge us all individually, He knows what is apparent, and what is hidden, and He is the best of judges.

    a1 said this on November 16, 2007 at 2:15 am

  25. Something we need to remember is that we are people and our understanding of Islam is not fixed. I put on hijab out of conviction that it was required, I no longer have that conviction, but I still wear it because I like it. I have worn all kinds of clothing, trousers and long shirts, abayaat, khimaars, niqab, a scarf tied to the back, three quarter length sleeves. Outwardly to some it seems that I have progressed to a most “pious” state and then back again “reverted to my old ways”. But I know that my internal state has little to do with my dress. Allahu alam. Leave it to Him.

    artemis2 said this on November 17, 2007 at 1:11 am

  26. dear sister

    i wish y happy life and peaceful the life after.i am interested to talk to y despite the fact that we have a wide breach of distance and culture
    i shall be waiting for yr communique

    yrs gratefully
    jalees

    jalees said this on November 26, 2007 at 6:43 am

  27. As a Black woman trying to figure out who I am and my faith, I appreciate that I have stumbled upon your blog. I have been researchin the Islamic faith and the ‘Black” Muslim. I am disappointed to read hits condemming you for what you are or aren’t wearing! Is it not ones’ HEART that holds the treasures of the soul? Why is there so much emphasis on your wardrobe? Please, as I in no means inflict disrespect to those who practice the orthodox rules. If one is practicing the 5 pillars daily acknowledging Allah as the one and only does it really matter what I have on.? One of the reasons I became so disgusted with mainstream “Christian” religion denominations is that on Sunday they are all praising and worshipping in their churches; but come Monday morning they are back to their trueselves of greed, gossip, backstabbing,and trickery; however they are the first to let you know that they are a ‘CHRISTIAN’! I cringe everytime. I look forward to more dialogue and insight in the future. May Peace and Blessings be with you My Sista….

    Israel said this on December 16, 2007 at 8:53 pm

  28. asalam alaykum sis

    you look stunning

    but do you have to show it to the world ? just a thought

    ps. great blog

    amal said this on December 25, 2007 at 12:38 pm

  29. Haha!!! I’m mulling your Moving On post and thought I would click around a little while I put some words together…I’m curious to check other blogs that have “uncovered” sisters, because I’m wondering of they all get this reception?
    Anyhoo, my main point is:
    Those sisters that rejected my salams and my sisterhood because I was uncovered, Allah forgive them for the hurt they caused me.
    Love and Peace,
    ~Brooke

    sistersgotink said this on January 1, 2008 at 8:44 am

  30. I converted over 20 years ago and immediately put on the hijab. It lasted for only 6 months. I felt such an over-whelming sense of oppression that I literally became depressed. It was an unbelievable burden for me. I felt invisible and insignificant. Almost like a non-person. I began to search for hijab references in the Quran but found none. I was shown hadith but it was unclear whether it referred to showing only hands&face or hands&head. Finally, after much soul searching and some very kind counsel from my hijabi friends (from Yemen, UAE & Malaysia) I took off the scarf. I was told that there is no point in wearing it if I wasn’t doing it with a joyful heart. I continued to dress very modestly but stopped covering my hair. I have no regrets. Years later I met a wonderful woman who was an Afghani doctor, an wife, a mother and a very devoted muslimah. She told me that the head scarf and burka both pre-date al-Islam and are cultural, not religious. If you go to many parts of the middle east, Jewish and Christian women also wear head scarves and flowing robes. I am an American not an Arab. I guard my gaze and my modesty. I buy my clothes at the mall and cover myself so that I do not present myself as a sexual object or draw the attention of strange men. Only Allah can judge what is best. We all must walk the path that seems right for us.

    Aishah said this on January 3, 2008 at 12:01 am

  31. Assalamu alaykum WRWB,

    This is the same sad story with us Muslim, Not knowing how to give adevice (Naseeha). First of all I picked up your blog from a friends blog who started the “Islamic Salon”. I found that after a loss in my life that these blogs was a way of communicating and venting. A lot of the topics are good but most of all the way we argue or give advice is inappropriate sometimes.

    Advice is given in a lovely manner and you should have some time of love for the one whom you are giving the advice. I work at a Islamic school and some of the teachers and students do not wear hijab. Its not a big deal if a person has weak Iman. Be cause we she has strong Iman she will adhere to all the codes of Islam. So give loving advice at all times

    Masalama
    BAK

    BAK said this on January 16, 2008 at 2:43 pm

  32. Asalaamu Alaikam!

    I think that people are getting hung up what a person wears on the outside, and not bothering to see what they are wearing on the inside. I know women who cover who are not great examples of what Muslims should be, and I know women who do not cover who are the best examples of what Muslims should be.

    Modesty comes in many forms, but it should be noted that Hijab is NOT the most important thing in Islam. Is hijab part of the pillars of Islam and the pillars of Iman? No, and there is a reason for that. Hijab does not automatically mean that a woman is perfectly following her deed, nor does it mean that she has more iman that a woman who does not cover. I cover, and I get so sick of people thinking that because I cover, I am automatically better than those who don’t! It’s not good to judge anyone, and we should all first look at ourselves.

    MashAllah, sister, you are doing something great for Muslims and Islam with your blog. I am just sorry that many Muslims cannot get past a piece of cloth. Hijab is a personal choice. When we feel ready to do it, we do it. And when we do it, we do it only for Allah, not for anyone else.

    I just stumbled upon your site, and I am already feeling inspired by your aticles! Jazak Allah khair!

    Wasalaam

    Noor Inaya said this on January 26, 2008 at 4:10 pm

  33. oh, and one more thing…… It really irks me when men feel the need to chime in on hijab. It could be compared to a man talking about the pains of childbirth. He knows women who have suffered it; maybe he’s even witnessed a delivery, but that does NOT make him an expert on what it feels like. He’s nothing more that a third party, offering a third party’s advice on an issue that he’s a mere observer to. Guys, stick to the issues that you have personally experienced, okay?

    Wasalaamz!

    Noor Inaya said this on January 26, 2008 at 4:18 pm

  34. I’m sure that Sister Noor does not mean that men shouldn’t be able to talk about the concept of hijab at all, in which case I’d disagree, a comment like ‘men feel the need to chime in on hijab’ is rather broad and sweeping. I agree that its not ultimately the man’s decision, and he shouldn’t feel that it somehow reflects upon him if a sister related to him does not wear hijab. However, not being able to express an opinion is a different matter. I’m one of those who believes that even those who are diametrically opposed to me should be able to express their opinions no matter what. There’s no such thing as a wrong opinion, just a different one.

    K-Dude said this on January 28, 2008 at 12:55 am

  35. as salaamu alaikum sister. i must say that as someone who knows you ummm…not at all, i am quite disappointed with the photos. where is the scowl? where’s the mean grimace? i know “it’s complicated” but you look like a happy black muslim woman to me (lol). may Allah protect you and keep you that way, insha Allah.

    muslimahlocs said this on February 26, 2008 at 5:06 am

  36. Alhamdulillah, thanks to God for your expansion of the perception folks have of Muslim women. Continued support and success to you.

    Peace,
    Zaimah

    Zaimah said this on March 22, 2008 at 4:25 pm

  37. As’salaam Aleykum,

    Indeed, it is good to give a naseeha (advise) to someone we love for Allah’s sake. However, there are ways to give advise that require a certain understanding of our society and more importantly - religion. I starting wearing hijab at the age of 16 and for me it was just a matter of what color I would wear, Alhamdulilaah I did not have any inner struggles with it. I also begin to wear Niqab at the age of 18 until I was 20 (and begin to only really like associating with sisters who wore niqab).

    One thing I can say wholeheartedly is that Hayat (modesty) is a state of being inside as well as outwardly. I have seen sisters who wear the khimaar down to those with a niqab have the worst ahklaq/adab (character/manners) ever. We also should remember that there was a time when we were not necessarily doing a requirement in Islam that someone was kind to us and gave us advise and time to grow. You will be surprised how much your attitude and presentation will affect some one else in a positive way.

    We forget in warning one another to follow the Sunnah on issues such as Hijab, Beard, Niqab…that one thing that drew many of the Prophets (s) companions and enemies to him was his character and tolerance of others. I think this is lacking especially among these so call “Salafee Muslims” today.

    Alhamdulillaah, I can say I never had a hard time becoming employed, I currently work at a Medical Research Company - this is not to say that our sisters have not experiences bad run-ins with ignorant people. I have a really good friend that took 10 years to come in to Hijab, I am just so happy that I was supportive (as was her husband) and I am even more proud of her now for making a decision for herself.

    May Allah guide and correct our affairs and cause us to do those thing which He azza wajall loves, Ameen.

    candidlyspeaking said this on March 25, 2008 at 6:26 pm

  38. assalamualaikum,
    my dear sister, i believe u always want to be a good muslimah n i can understand it must be hard been there, in a non-muslim country. I’m in a multi-race country, but Islam is the major
    religion n non-muslims are free to practice their religions. Still, many Muslimah not wearing hijab, n i think i don’t have to judge them by that even though most of my frens are so judgemental. I’m still befriends with them, n try to show them that wearing hijab isn’t that bad, and yes people would think u are religious. It’s okay, let them judge u, let it be the dua cos in the end (at heart) of course we want to be religious. we are praying everyday asking Allah to accept our ibadah no matter what.
    as a Muslims, we are responsible to educate n support our sisters to practice the best in Islam, i think dats wat Ibrahim tried to tell. We don’t judge other people, let Allah judges them. The question is, how do u want Allah to judge u? Ask urself n u’ll know what should u do.

    Anyway, it’s true dat not all women dat wearing hijab are good, even i myself not a perfect muslimah. i’ve sinned a lot n still regretting it. The most important thing is we want to change. I am so sorry it must be hard for u there, I pray dat Allah will make it easy for u to practice ISLAM.I won’t judge u cos i’ve never been there n never feel how hard it is. Don’t feel bad, but please try to improve, every second as long as we still have time to do it.

    sue said this on March 26, 2008 at 10:59 am

  39. asSalaamu 3layki wa ra7matuAllaahi wa barakaatuh,

    hey sis hope ur well insha’Allaah, sooo i been reading ur comments and stuff!

    you were saying how if you wear hijaab you would have to be able to deal with interviews and verbal abuse and stares and all that jazz…

    i get stared at all the time lol and i look like a scary tent with my niqaab and things LOL, i cant even say hi to kids anymore cos they run off all scared ahhahaha… but really its not THAT bad, most ppl know about islaam now and the ones that dont are just ignorant and really easy to ignore… actually those ppl are really fun to mess with too haha…

    okey anyways as i was saying…..

    if you sacrifice for the sake of Allaah he will make it easy for you. If you obey Allaahs command of hijaab your life will just fall into place, the more you obey Allaah and become closer to him, the more your life is a breeze, but you have to take that first step and do it, it will be hard but you get reward for dealing with those stares and things…

    look at it in a different light…you should fear Allaah and obey him, i know its hard, i been there, it was hard at first for me to wear it.. i think i was 13-14 when i started wearing hijaab and it was hard to deal with kuffaar questioning why i started and etc. but i mean that lasted a couple days and it was over, i even gained respect from the kuffaar cos they were like “oh shes actually practicing her religion” and i felt like i had an identity of a muslimah and it was a pretty cool feeling, gave me lots of da3wah oppurtunities aswell…..

    وَمَن يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَل لَّهُ مَخْرَجاً

    “And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty).” {Soorah at-Talaaq; 2}

    see! =) if you keep ur duties to Allaah He will make everything easy for you insha’Allaah =) its just beautiful to know Allaah is there and so merciful and ahh sub7anAllaah dont you just wanna scream I LOVE YOU ALLLAAAHHH!!!!!!!!!!! yeh i do it all the time lol my little brother thinks am psycho

    once i started covering, i wondered why i didnt do it earlier!! it was those whispers from shaytaan i tell you! it was a slow process of constant never ending improvement, went from hijaab and jeans LOL… to skirts… to 3abaya to niqaab and things LOL it took long now am 20 and i look back, it was a long journey and it was a minor struggle but it feels so good to obey Allaah and be covered, and i know that all the struggles i go thru with family and things and anything else, i get rewarded for it al7amdulillaah.. and i know Allaah is protecting me and giving me strength to wear it cos am obeying Him

    and dont think like “omg i have to stop cussing first” or “i have to do this first before i put on hijaab” cos thats dumb, hijaab CHANGES YOU slowly, i wasnt perfect when i started wearing it I STILL AM NOT i mean we’re all human everyone slips and makes mistakes, our emaan goes up and down, just cos u wear hijaab and niqaab doesnt mean ur perfect, its just ur following one of the imperative obligatory commands from Allaah and ur still human, we all just have to TRY….and the best of sinnners are those who turn to Allaah and repent….

    hijaab is real important, its a protection for us….if you look at it like that its really beautiful sub7anAllaah.. its like we’re these precious little pearls that are to be protected… our beauty is to be presereved and protected for our husbands only and family etc. lol

    now to those ppl who yelled at you and called you a kaafireh cos you took it off, lol thats a bit too silly if they didnt ask what ur going thur or whatever it was.. or support you and try to raise ur emaan to wear it again…..you dont need to waste your time with them or associate with them WHO CARES what ppl think about you? Allaah knows whats in your heart so why let it bother you what they say? and if they talk about you, let them! you get to steal theyr good deeds!

    just hold ur head high and dont worry about silly ppl who talk smack, no matter what you do ppl will always talk, start wearing hijaab be strong and do it for the sake of Allaah, its only good for you, to protect you and once you do it again Allaah will make you strong and make everything easy for you insha’Allaah… just keep making du3aa2 to Allaah and ask him to make you strong to start wearing it again

    to “aisha” thats horrible to hear that you felt insignificant and invisible Allaahul musta3an…. thats just weird to me, i feel like a protected queen when am covered….al7amdulillaah…
    i dont know how its not clear to you that hijaab is an obligatory command from Allaah, its a consensus i mean there is no question about it… when you felt invisible and things and depressed… thats just clearly shaytaan whispering to you man… anyways i donno if you chek this blog or will see this comment… so if u reply later ill check and continue… and help you understand it IS infact a command from Allaah…. i can understand if someone is weak to wear it etc. but to say its not a command is a whole different story so yeh comment if ur still alive lol

    to “Noor Inaya” ur comment about how you hate when men comment about hijaab, i disagree, part of the reason we wear hijaab is to protect ourselves from strange MEN etc. so its good to hear them comment, they themselves KNOW how men think and how they work, so for them to comment and agree to cover ourselves is telling us we are not safe being uncovered, yeh they may not know how it feels to cover but they are advising and commenting for OUR own good cos they care about us women and have gheerah over us, they want us to be protected from strange men

    soo wow i actually NEVER comment on blogs, usually if i do its like ONE LINE and thats mostly in reply to comments on MY BLOG hahah… but i was really bored and i felt like reading and i just kept on typing my thoughts… sorry if theyr mumble jumbled…you desrve a cookie if you read all that lol, sub7anAllaah i just wrote a novel LOL i dont even post like this on my blog LOL unless its a copy paste LOL

    well sweet cakes thats my two cents

    sooo i was linked to ur blog by some sis, and this is the only thing ive read on it (all these comments to ur pics), i dont know exactly what its abouttt hmmm maybe another day! i spent too much time tryna type out my novel of thoughts hahah

    take care be good and do good
    wasSalaamu 3laykum wa ra7matuAllaahi wa barakaatuh

    najat said this on March 29, 2008 at 5:06 pm

  40. People commenting on how not to be obsessed with the material world and then getting bothered about what clothes someone else wears?
    Something wrong there..

    Peanut said this on April 3, 2008 at 6:26 pm

  41. you need to up your imaan, don’t think ‘oh you don’t know what state my imaan is in’ because I and everyone else can clearly see that your imaan is low, how dare you call yourself Muslim yet look like any other non-Muslim with your hair showing!! shame on you!! if you cannot honer Islam then don’t carry its banner, you make us all look bad & immoral!!

    Sheba said this on April 8, 2008 at 4:12 pm

  42. Sheba - seriously; you think not covering one’s head makes one bad and immoral? How can one even draw such a conclusion?

    hafidha sofia said this on April 9, 2008 at 7:27 am

  43. as salaam u alaikum. i’m a muslimah from south africa. i came across this blog when i google searched ‘pic of a black muslim girl’ because i was loading a profile and did not want to use my own pic and a pic was mandatory. your picture caught my eye, more especially your abaya. it is quite bright and beautiful. i wasn’t interested in the blog but i started reading and not surprisingly all the comments were about your dress. scrolling down to the latest comments i see it is still about your dress. what i would love to know is, when you decided to start this blog what did you have in mind? putting up those two pics that you chose is a sure way to invite the responses that you have received. i for one wish that this blog would move on and focus on something else. however as a muslimah who understands the nuances of the english language, i must say that the quraan and sunnah has prescribed the manner of dress for the muslim women and i’m sure we all understand that the quraan does not change to accommodate the times it is for all time. so what gives us the right to argue with that. muslim women do not expose their hair and bodies. PERIOD!

    fatima said this on April 13, 2008 at 9:18 am

  44. p.s. the jilbaab is form of dress native to arabia. women in africa wear hijaab without ever knowing what a jilbaab is. hijaab should be flexible. i for one am a fashionable ‘hijaabi’. was salaam

    fatima said this on April 13, 2008 at 9:32 am

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